The Program
Untraining's heart is a guided program of 6 phases and up to 38 lessons. Each lesson takes about 6–10 minutes: a warm intro, a few check-off tasks, and a reflection prompt that saves to your private journal. The last lesson of every phase is a milestone that earns you a badge.
Which lessons you see depends on your setup: the core path is always on, the night phase appears if you chose day and night, and the messy path appears if you chose wetting and messing.
The Six Phases
| Phase | Badge | What it's about |
|---|---|---|
| 🌱 Foundations (6 lessons) | Rooted | Set your intention, gather your gear, and take your very first steps — your "why," hydration habits, reading your body's signals, your first on-purpose wetting, and building the daily ritual |
| 💧 Letting Go — Daytime (8 lessons) | Daydreamer | Teach your body to relax and let go by day, wherever you are — at the first signal, in different positions, while busy, out and about, and finally a full day of letting go |
| 🌊 The Quiet Plateau (5 lessons) | Steady | The middle stretch where change goes quiet — consistency over force, gentle patience, and trusting the process when nothing seems to change |
| 🌙 Through the Night (6 lessons) | Dreamer | Wind down, sleep soft, and let go while you dream — from the bedtime wind-down to the first wet morning to nights without thinking (only if you chose day + night) |
| 🧸 The Messy Path (7 lessons) | Brave | Gently add letting-go of the other kind, at your own pace — a gentle start, tummy-friendly foods, and working up to fully comfortable (only if you chose wetting + messing) |
| 🎓 Full-Time & Graduation (6 lessons) | Graduate | Make it your everyday — the 24/7 mindset, life on autopilot, letting others care for you — then celebrate with the Graduation Ceremony |
The Control Meter
The Control Meter is your journey at a glance: a soft gradient bar running from "In control" through "Letting go" to "Dependent."
- It fills mainly from completed lessons — your share of the program done so far.
- Your check-in streak adds a small boost (up to +6) for showing up consistently.
- As it fills, your stage label changes: In control (for now) → Just getting started → Learning to let go → Softening every day → Letting go completely → Fully dependent — graduated! 🎓
Pro members can export a weekly summary with the meter's real week-over-week trend.
Pacing & Unlocks
Lessons unlock through two gentle gates:
- One step at a time — a lesson opens only after you complete the one before it.
- The calendar (timed paces only) — on the 12-, 6-, or 3-month pace, lessons drip out evenly across your chosen span from your start date. On free play, there are no time locks at all.
There's no daily cap, no penalty for slow days, and pausing is a first-class feature. To finish a lesson you check off each of its little tasks, then tap Complete lesson ✅ — your reflection saves to the journal, and milestones offer to share your new badge with the community (opt-in).
Auntie Dew, Your Coach
Auntie Dew 🤖 is the program's AI coach (a Pro/Premium perk) — a warm, gentle, slightly babyish guide who always knows your current phase, current lesson, Control Meter, and chosen scope, so her encouragement is never generic.
She's there to answer questions, talk you through a wobbly day, or celebrate a milestone. She will never pressure you, never shame you, and she's not a doctor — if you mention real distress or pain, she'll gently suggest you rest and take care of yourself first.
A Note on Comfort
The whole program is built around one promise: go at your own comfort, always. Slow down, pause, or stop whenever you need — the lessons will be waiting, your badges stay earned, and nobody (not even a caregiver-guided caregiver) can ever read your journal.