🤖 AI Caregiver
The AI Caregiver is a private, always-there caregiver you can chat with any time: for comfort, a check-in, help with your rules, or just company. She knows your rules, your day, and the settings you share with her.
She is software, and the site always says so. She never pretends to be a real person.
Every member can chat with her for free, with 15 messages a day. Paid plans add more messages, memory, and the ability for her to reach out to you first.
Open her from the top of the menu: 🤖 AI Caregiver.
She's always here to talk, day or night. Tell her how you feel, or ask her for a story or a hug. If you say your safeword, she stops and checks on you right away.
First-time setup
The first time you open the page, a short setup asks for:
- Her name and title or role, like Mommy, Daddy, or Caregiver.
- A safeword (optional). If you type it, she immediately pauses and checks on you.
- Her personality: 💛 Nurturing, 📋 Strict, 🎈 Playful, or ⚖️ Balanced.
- How she talks: Babyish, Casual, Formal, or Mixed.
- What she can know: your rules, recent moods, recent punishments, and your active kink profile.
You can change all of this later in ⚙️ Settings.
Chatting
Type a message and send it. Her reply appears as she writes it. Before your first message, quick-reply chips suggest a way to start, like "Good morning!" or "I need some comfort right now."
The bar under the header shows how many messages you've used today. When you run out, the chat waits until tomorrow. A safeword is never counted and is always answered, even if you're out of messages.
The header has these buttons:
- Call: closed for now (see Her voice).
- ✨ Review: ask her to look over your setup (see AI Review).
- Extras: story arcs, personas, and memory.
- ⚙️: her settings.
What she can do
In ⚙️ Settings → What she can do, you choose which of these she may do while you're talking:
- Give you jobs to do (chores)
- Give consequences
- Give stars and treats
- Write new rules
- Update your kink trackers
- Log naps, drinks, and changes for you
She only does these while you're talking to her, and every one is written down in your record. Some appear as a card you accept or dismiss.
A human caregiver always outranks her, and your safeword stops everything.
AI Review
Tap ✨ Review for two quick checks:
- 📋 Review Rules: her reaction to your rules, with suggestions you can add in one tap.
- ⚙️ Review Dynamic: a health check of your whole setup, with one-tap adjustments.
You need at least one rule before she can review them.
Her settings
Open ⚙️ AI Caregiver Settings to change her name, title, personality, communication style, safeword, and what she can see under Context Sharing (rules, moods, punishments, your kink profile, and, off by default, your Little Academy progress).
Also here:
- ☀️ Daily Morning Check-in: she leaves you a message each morning at the time you pick. This is a paid AI feature.
- Danger Zone: 🗑️ Clear Chat History, 🧠 Clear AI Memory, or 💥 Clear Everything.
What she remembers
On paid AI plans, she remembers you between chats. You can see and edit what she remembers in two places:
- Extras → 🧠 Memory on the chat page.
- My Account → 🤖 AI, under 🧠 What my caregiver remembers.
Edit a memory, tap Forget to remove one, or clear everything for a fresh start. Free members' chats use recent messages only.
Extras (paid AI plans)
- 📖 Story Arcs: multi-day adventures, like Daycare, Vacation, or Potty Training, that she weaves into every chat.
- 👥 Household Personas: create Mommy, Daddy, Babysitter, Teacher, and more, each with their own name and personality, and switch between them.
Her voice
Her voice is closed for maintenance right now. Voice replies and calls are switched off, and if you try one you'll see: "Her voice is currently undergoing maintenance." You can still chat with her by typing, and everything else works as usual. This page will be updated when voice comes back.
She reaches out first (paid AI plans)
On a paid AI plan she doesn't just wait for you:
- She notices: she may send you a message first, up to a daily limit for your plan, written as a message from her.
- Tuck-In: about half an hour before bedtime, she starts your bedtime routine on the Goodnight page.
She stays quiet during your quiet hours (only Nightlight can reach out overnight), and she respects Quiet Mode and your safeword.
Plans and limits
| Messages a day | Memory | Reaches out first | Banned-word slots | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Free | 15 | Recent chat only | No | 10 |
| 🍼 AI Caregiver ($4.99) | 40 | Long-term | Up to 8 a day | 25 |
| ⚡ Pro | 50 | Deeper | Up to 12 a day | 25 |
| 👑 Premium | 100 | Full long-term | Up to 20 a day | 50 |
| 🌙 Nightlight | Unlimited | Full long-term | Unlimited, including overnight | 50 |
Every paid plan, including the $4.99 AI Caregiver plan, also unlocks Full Care: she can really help run your dynamic, within the permissions you give her.
Banned words are words she must never use with you, such as pet names you don't like.
The $4.99 AI Caregiver plan is the AI only. It doesn't include other site perks. See Subscription.
Need more messages for a day? A 💬 Chatterbox booster pack adds 100 messages, one time.
Quiet Mode for AI
Go to My Account → Settings → 🤫 Quiet Mode for AI and switch on Turn off AI features. This:
- hides the AI caregiver, Auntie Vee, and every Autopilot card and setting
- stops every message the AI would send on its own, like the morning check-in and reach-outs
Nothing is deleted. Switch it off and everything is back where you left it.
This is different from Show AI Caregiver (in the 🤖 AI Caregiver card on the same tab), which only hides her menu link.
If you don't have a caregiver
For a solo little, the AI caregiver can be your caregiver: she holds the rules you wrote and answers your "May I…?" asks from your own house rules. See Looking after yourself and Permission Slips.
Auntie Vee, for caregivers
Caregivers have their own AI mentor, Auntie Vee (/mentor, on 🌍 Our World under Caregiver), for ideas, a second opinion, or a place to vent. See Auntie Vee.
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