🧸 Looking after yourself

Looking after yourself (caregiverbabyhub.com/self-caregiver) is the page for anyone with nobody caring for them. That includes littles, switches, and people with an Account-abili-baby, because a buddy isn't a caregiver.

You get here from 🤝 Caregiver in the menu: with no caregiver linked, that link brings you to this page. Once you link a caregiver, the page steps aside and points you to the Caregiver page instead.

A solo little has to be the caregiver as well as the little. This page takes the caregiver's job off your hands in honest ways:

1. Past-you. Big-you sets things up once. Little-you just follows them.
2. The AI caregiver. Disclosed software, never dressed up as a person.
3. Structure. Rituals and programs that need nobody.
4. A real peer. Another little, who is explicitly not a caregiver.

Nothing on this page pretends to be a human who isn't there.

🍼For littles

Big-you already decided the rules here, so you don't have to. Look at Right now to see what's next. The safeword always works.

How the page is laid out

At the top, above everything else:

• The come-down: a guided way out of littlespace after a session. It always sits at the top so you can find it.
• Right now: what you're held to at this minute, and what wants you today.

Under that are four tabs:

Tab	What's in it
☀️ Today	What's happening now, and what you do most days
📜 Promises	What you already agreed, until its date runs out
🧰 Set up	The machinery, and the switches that turn each part on
🗂️ Record	What already happened, with dates

The ✨ Everything else button (top right) is a shortcut to every part of the page.

If your Little Meter is turned up very high, the tabs go away and the page becomes one simple list, daily things first. Everything is still there.

Get started

The first time, the page asks you to start with your contract. It builds itself from your own dynamic: your rules, rewards, consequences, care stage, and safeword. You can sign it and print it. It keeps every version, and there is no way to delete it.

Set up: the six areas

Each row in Set up shows its real status, so you can see what's on without opening it.

Area	What it does
📜 What you signed	Your contract with yourself, and the weekly sit-down where you plan the week
🎀 Your caregiver	The AI caregiver: software that holds your rules and answers when you ask. She says she's not a person on every answer
🕯️ Rituals	Going little on purpose, coming back down afterward, and the wind-down before bed
🎲 Choosing for you	Hand small decisions over and the app picks instead: what to do next, which chores today, how the day goes
🦷 When you slip	What happens on a day you don't keep a rule. You pick it, and only what you picked can happen
🔐 The code you cannot remember	The site holds your phone's Screen Time passcode so you can't switch your own limits back off

Write my week

Once a week, big-you does the caregiver work for the week ahead. Tap Write my week. Answer the parts that matter and leave the rest:

• What your dynamic is proposing: changes suggested from your own rules and what you logged. Pick one and it takes effect. Leave one alone and it stays away for six months.
• A rule, and what happens if you break it: write both now, so little-you has nothing to argue with.
• What you may have this week: Yes signs a permission slip ahead of time, No turns it down, Ask me hands it back to you.
• Something you are ruling out: the thing you know you'll want at eleven at night. The AI won't help you with it, and an ask about it comes back no.
• Something you are locking in: you can't clear it until the day you pick.
• A note for the week: little-you will read it on a bad Tuesday.

Everything you agreed shows on the Promises tab under What you are holding yourself to. Big-you can lift a ruled-out item or tear up a slip from there.

Choosing for you

One tap hands the choosing over and one tap takes it back. The app picks what's next, draws today's chores from your own list, and can build a plan for today from your own schedule and rules. Each pick says where it came from. You can also schedule it ahead of time, for example "after eight, stop asking me things."

When choosing is handed over, your Dashboard shows what's happening now instead of asking you.

When you slip

• Owning up: three taps to confess something, drawn from the rules you actually have. The consequence comes from your own list.
• Corner time or a consequence you chose ahead of time.
• Consequences climb with repeats, never on a bad day.

Two things can never be locked: the safeword, and what you need on a bad day (the tracker, the journal, comfort, and crisis links).

The code you cannot remember

This keeps your phone's own screen-time limits in place. Your phone does the enforcing. The site just holds the code.

1. Turn on Screen Time (iPhone) or Digital Wellbeing (Android) yourself.
2. The site shows a random code once.
3. Type it into your phone while it's on screen.
4. Type it back to the site so it knows you have it.
5. Pick how long it stays hidden.

There is no escape hatch

The code really is unavailable until the timer ends. Support can't show it, and no export or notification will reveal it. The screen says so before the timer starts. When the timer ends, you can see it again. Clearing your browser or changing phones doesn't lose it.

Record

• The noticing: one true sentence a week about a pattern in what you logged, or nothing at all.
• Letters from past-you: write something now that opens later, on a date or on a condition like "open on a bad night." A date letter is truly sealed until the day.
• The ledger: dated sit-downs and the consequences you served.
• Ceremonies: small moments the page marks once you've earned them.

The safeword

The safeword can never be locked, frozen, or ruled out. The Companion's Stop key and the Dock's Comfort Corner reach the same safeword as the main site.