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🧰 Tools opens Build Your Dynamic: hands-on tools for working out your dynamic, not just reading about it.

Saved on this device only

Everything you write in the build tools is saved in this browser on this device. It is not saved to your account and does not appear on other devices. That makes it a private place to draft honestly.

For littles

Answer the questions on your side. Then your caregiver answers theirs on the same phone or computer, and Match-Up shows where you agree.

Worksheets​

There are four worksheets, with 19 questions in all:

  • 🎀 Roles & Power
  • 📋 Rules & Structure
  • ☀️ Daily Care & Routine
  • 🛟 Limits, Safewords & Aftercare

Your answers save as you type. Each side (caregiver and little) has its own set of answers. Tap ↺ clear my answers to start a worksheet again.

The Build-Your-Dynamic wizard​

Tap ✨ Run the wizard to answer the same 19 questions one step at a time.

  1. Answer each step and tap Next →. Use ← Back to go back, or skip to the end.
  2. On the last step, tap Finish ✓.
  3. The end screen suggests five pages to read next and links to See the Match-Up and Review worksheets.

Checklists​

Five printable checklists:

  • 💬 The Negotiation Talk
  • 🌱 Your First Week
  • 🕯️ Before a Big Session
  • 🧸 Aftercare Kit
  • ☀️ Daily Care Checklist

Tick items as you go, tap ↺ reset to clear one, or 🖨️ Print to print them.

Match-Up​

Match-Up compares the caregiver-side answers and the little-side answers saved on the same device.

  1. On one device, fill in the worksheets (or run the wizard) on the 🫶 Caregiver side.
  2. Flip the toggle to 🧸 Little and fill them in again from the little's point of view.
  3. Tap 🤝 Match-Up.

Each answer is marked 💚 Aligned, 💛 Close, 🧡 Talk it over, 📝 Compare notes or ⚪ Incomplete, with an overall compatibility score. Tap 🖨️ Print / save PDF to keep a copy.

Because answers stay on one device, you and your partner need to use the same phone or computer for Match-Up.

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